It's time to stop trying to do it all!
Everyday Yellow Leadership begins this Fall!
Learn to live and lead with joy and ease in my new group coaching program for trailblazing women of color age 50+. Click HERE to learn more and join the waitlist.
One theme that comes up again and again in my coaching conversations is this: many women want to feel more supported.
The challenge is that high-achievers, caretakers, leaders, and nurturers are deeply skilled at giving support. We show up for others, solve problems, carry the emotional load, and hold space for the people around us. Receiving support, however, can feel surprisingly uncomfortable.
I learned this lesson the hard (and slightly humbling) way after surgery on my right Achilles tendon. I couldn’t drive for three months, so every day I climbed into an Uber with my knee scooter and every day a driver had to help me. My instinct each time was to say, “Oh no, I’ve got it.”
One evening an older gentleman dropped me off at my house. I told him I could manage the few stairs to my door because I had perfected my hop-hop-knee-scooter routine.
He looked at me and said, “Don’t be ridiculous. I’m not going to let you do this by yourself.”
He stood beside me as I made the first hop, lost my balance, and started tipping over. Before I hit the ground, he caught me.
A few rides later, another driver said something that has stayed with me ever since: “Ma’am, you are blocking your blessings. When you don’t let people help you, you close the door on the goodness meant for you.”
When we over-function in our relationships—always initiating, managing, and holding everything together—we unintentionally limit the reciprocity our relationships need to thrive.
Our relationships don’t only need our strength; they also need our openness and willingness to lean when we need to. Receiving support deepens connection and creates more ease in our lives.
A question to reflect on this week: Where in your life might you allow more support to come your way?
That might mean saying "yes" when someone offers help, allowing a friend to listen when something is weighing on you, or letting yourself be celebrated without minimizing the moment.
Learning to receive support is a practice. It requires intention, self-awareness, and the courage to release the belief that you have to carry everything alone.
This is one of the many conversations we explore inside Everyday Yellow Leadership—a space designed for accomplished women who are ready to lead, live, and thrive with more clarity, support, and ease.
If you’re curious about what becomes possible when you stop holding it all by yourself, I invite you to learn more and join the waitlist HERE. You’ll be the first to receive details about the program and upcoming opportunities to step into this next chapter of leadership and life. 💛
Our Kind of Women
Last Sunday, on International Women’s Day, I had the pleasure of attending an exhibit where Bessie Akuba shared the vision she has been cultivating through her project, Our Kind of Women: a visual love letter to Black women redefining their prime.
It was a powerful experience. The room was electric with brilliant Black women (and our supporters) who are building, creating, and leading in extraordinary ways across Atlanta and beyond. The energy in the space was a reminder of what happens when vision, artistry, and community come together with intention.
I am deeply proud to have been photographed for this project and to witness the impact it is already having.
You can learn more about Bessie’s vision and pre-order the beautiful coffee table book at this LINK.